On June 22, Keri Hilson took to Twitter to say, "I want who God wants for me, but am I wrong for hoping my soulmate is a black man? He don’t even have to be American, I’ve dated 3 non-American black men. But I want to love a black man. Or a man of color..."
Her tweet quickly sparked conversation and think pieces left and right concerning related matters including race politics, interracial dating & relationships, and more. Keri went on to say, "And if he’s neither, he’d have to have a deep understanding & genuine support of my pro-blackness. Anybody feel me?"
I want who God wants for me, but am I wrong for hoping my soulmate is a black man? He don’t even have to be American, I’ve dated 3 non-American black men. But I want to love a black man. Or a man of color...
— Keri Hilson (@KeriHilson) June 23, 2021
Anybody feel me?
— Keri Hilson (@KeriHilson) June 23, 2021
Her tweets recieved a polarized reception ranging from fervent agreement and a few black men shooting their shots, to people stating her messaging was racially insensitive and close minded.
One Twitter user stated, "You’re never going to meet a non-black man that has a deep understanding and genuine support of your pro-blackness. That doesn’t exist, and if you think they do; they’re faking it. Get a black man, [me]."
"Whenever someone expresses their desire to date or mate interracially, the "love has no color" ppl are the first to stick up and say everyone has a preference, but soon as someone expresses the desire to mate inside their own culture, here the come correcting them." another twitter user voices.
An objecting user stated,"If someone had a my soulmate is white' shirt, people would be feeling some type of way."
"This is embarrassing! BM date out yet BW stay begging and single. You have other optionsHere's a look at the good, bad, and ugly." one user said.
you’re never going to meet a non-black man that has a deep understanding and genuine support of your pro-blackness. That doesn’t exist, and if you think they do; they’re faking it. Get a black man, [me]. pic.twitter.com/9znAu06XbH
— Dimitri (@misterDjay_) June 23, 2021
If someone had a 'My soulmate is white' shirt, people would be feeling some type of way.
— J (@TheMusicalGeni1) June 25, 2021
This is embarrassing! BM date out yet BW stay begging and single. You have other options
— Sorjourner tells the truth (@speaklifeto) June 25, 2021
Whenever someone expresses their desire to date or mate interracially, the "love has no color" ppl are the first to stick up and say everyone has a preference, but soon as someone expresses the desire to mate inside their own culture, here the come correcting them.
— Down South Tony Starks (@CeoTonyStarks) June 25, 2021
Wilson quelled the commentary with a simple tweet with the phrase, "I said what I said" and a photo of her rocking a tee with "my soulmate is Black. quickly coined the phrase and had merch created. Take a look at the design below and let us know what you think!
i said what i said... 🤷🏾♀️🖤https://t.co/DA0Cm9Tpme pic.twitter.com/eHSXwV13Li
— Keri Hilson (@KeriHilson) June 25, 2021
Often times we think we know what we want and what is good for us. And even more often than not we are corrected and redirected by God towards what's really for us. You'll never know definitively what is for you until God has reassured us and when it comes to choosing our life partners that is still very much the case.
But we'd love to hear your thoughts on the topic. Is your soulmate black? Or are you open to having a soulmate of another race? Comment down below!
Written by Precious Onukwuli